I don’t condone jerkiness. It frustrates me till the ends of the earth to see people who know better behaving badly.
If your mother taught you manners, then you have no excuse for your behavior. But instead of pointing fingers and getting super mad, I have to call on my inner zen and remember that for whatever reason, the ’jerk’ isn't ready to look at themselves and become accountable for their actions. They just aren't in the place where they can actually get it.
The only thing left for me to do is to let it go... I can’t ask from someone what they're incapable of giving.
But here’s the thing. I don’t have to stand by and just let someone bully me because they don’t ’get it’. Not being able to see what you’re doing isn’t any excuse. I have every right to defend myself. And apart from that, I really just don’t have to accept that kind of negativity into my life.
I’m not a believer in Karma in the traditional since. Life has made it pretty clear that sometimes good people get rewarded and sometimes they get kicked in the balls.
But here’s what I do believe in. As corny and cliché as it is: Life is what you make it.
I can’t change the world and I can’t count on a Devine power to swoop down and settle things in the long run. What I can count on is myself. I can choose how I look at the world, I can choose my behaviors, and I can choose who I let into my life.
I’m in no position to judge anyone. I work really hard to avoid that trap and I completely (painfully so at times) remember that I’m just as flawed as the next person. But I don't have to judge you to not want you in my life.
If you make me or the people around me feel bad or uncomfortable then I'm not really interested in having you around. And frankly, I don’t have the time to waste on people who make me feel less than fantastic.
Whatever you’re going through, I hope you get through it. I hope you can get the help you need or realize that something’s not right and learn how to deal with those things. But until you can get real and look at your behaviors and actions, I can’t call you my friend.
Good luck. I truly hope you can get it together. For your sake. Because I don't think you’re going to find much peace in your life in the mean time.
If your mother taught you manners, then you have no excuse for your behavior. But instead of pointing fingers and getting super mad, I have to call on my inner zen and remember that for whatever reason, the ’jerk’ isn't ready to look at themselves and become accountable for their actions. They just aren't in the place where they can actually get it.
The only thing left for me to do is to let it go... I can’t ask from someone what they're incapable of giving.
But here’s the thing. I don’t have to stand by and just let someone bully me because they don’t ’get it’. Not being able to see what you’re doing isn’t any excuse. I have every right to defend myself. And apart from that, I really just don’t have to accept that kind of negativity into my life.
I’m not a believer in Karma in the traditional since. Life has made it pretty clear that sometimes good people get rewarded and sometimes they get kicked in the balls.
But here’s what I do believe in. As corny and cliché as it is: Life is what you make it.
I can’t change the world and I can’t count on a Devine power to swoop down and settle things in the long run. What I can count on is myself. I can choose how I look at the world, I can choose my behaviors, and I can choose who I let into my life.
I’m in no position to judge anyone. I work really hard to avoid that trap and I completely (painfully so at times) remember that I’m just as flawed as the next person. But I don't have to judge you to not want you in my life.
If you make me or the people around me feel bad or uncomfortable then I'm not really interested in having you around. And frankly, I don’t have the time to waste on people who make me feel less than fantastic.
Whatever you’re going through, I hope you get through it. I hope you can get the help you need or realize that something’s not right and learn how to deal with those things. But until you can get real and look at your behaviors and actions, I can’t call you my friend.
Good luck. I truly hope you can get it together. For your sake. Because I don't think you’re going to find much peace in your life in the mean time.
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