The older I get, the more I realize how many different kinds of friends there are.
The friends you share everything with. The friends you play fight with. The friends you call assholes. The friends who you can be spiritual with. The friends who you don't really know if they’re your friends or not because they play you so hot and cold. The "friends" you have to be friendly to because they're a part of your friendship group. The friends that you will spill your whole life to but then won't speak to for months and months. The "friends" who call you to do them favors but who you could never depend on. The friends you do nothing but laugh with. The friends that you wouldn’t necessarily assume you'd love, but you grow more attached to everyday. The friends you've known your whole life and who know you as both a child and an adult...
And this is just a tiny insignificant portion of the different kinds of friendship types.
Then we have the fact that the Internet has managed to turn the entire definition of friend on its head.
Anyways, whenever you get two people interacting, things get complicated.
But here's a pro tip that I think I'm finally coming to grasp. Anyone can call you their friend. But the real friends will make themselves known. If you have questions or doubts about the state of your friendship, then you have your answer.
There's no point in getting too attached to the people who aren't going to be there when you need them.
That doesn't mean those 'sort-of-friends’ shouldn't have a spot in your life. I don't mean that at all.
I just mean you need understand the relationship for what it is. If you have a friend that you're just sort of light and fun with, that's ok!! You don't need DEEP INSPIRATIONAL CONNECTION with every person you let into your life. Just don't be surprised when that person doesn't really know how to deal with you being upset that you lost your job or failed a semester. Don't hold that over their head, because those aren't the dynamics of your relationship, and they never promised that kind of love.
Give every friendship the chance to become more, but don’t insist it does. Enjoy the person for who they are and what they bring out in you.
The friends you share everything with. The friends you play fight with. The friends you call assholes. The friends who you can be spiritual with. The friends who you don't really know if they’re your friends or not because they play you so hot and cold. The "friends" you have to be friendly to because they're a part of your friendship group. The friends that you will spill your whole life to but then won't speak to for months and months. The "friends" who call you to do them favors but who you could never depend on. The friends you do nothing but laugh with. The friends that you wouldn’t necessarily assume you'd love, but you grow more attached to everyday. The friends you've known your whole life and who know you as both a child and an adult...
And this is just a tiny insignificant portion of the different kinds of friendship types.
Then we have the fact that the Internet has managed to turn the entire definition of friend on its head.
Anyways, whenever you get two people interacting, things get complicated.
But here's a pro tip that I think I'm finally coming to grasp. Anyone can call you their friend. But the real friends will make themselves known. If you have questions or doubts about the state of your friendship, then you have your answer.
There's no point in getting too attached to the people who aren't going to be there when you need them.
That doesn't mean those 'sort-of-friends’ shouldn't have a spot in your life. I don't mean that at all.
I just mean you need understand the relationship for what it is. If you have a friend that you're just sort of light and fun with, that's ok!! You don't need DEEP INSPIRATIONAL CONNECTION with every person you let into your life. Just don't be surprised when that person doesn't really know how to deal with you being upset that you lost your job or failed a semester. Don't hold that over their head, because those aren't the dynamics of your relationship, and they never promised that kind of love.
Give every friendship the chance to become more, but don’t insist it does. Enjoy the person for who they are and what they bring out in you.
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