Giving of myself is really important to me. I like to give of my time, attention, love. I like to be there for others and make myself of service.
I feel like (because of my condition) I often take more than my fair share. I depend on others for SO MUCH it almost feels like my duty to give back whenever/wherever I can.
So, if someone needs me, I make it a priority to drop whatever it is I'm doing to help them out or be there for them.
It doesn't matter if I'm inconvenienced, tired, busy... I try and put others before myself.
Obviously that isn't a healthy way to live for long periods of time. Because eventually, you give-and-give-and-give until you have nothing left.
Now, I’ve always thought that I would manage the giving. Like, there would be reasonable limits to what I was and what I wasn't willing to do for others.
And I guess there is. I’ve never gotten into a situation where I really regretted helping someone out.
But right now it’s getting to a point where I'm just tired. I’m stretching myself thinner than I’d like and I'm not able to give so freely. I’ll never ever resent someone asking for my attention or help and I want to be the kind of person others can depend on. I'm happy to help, it sustains me and makes me feel whole. But I have to be honest and say that I’m struggling a little bit.
I really dislike saying no to others, but it's starting to take a toll on me personally. I need to remember that there's nothing wrong with me turning off my phone every now and then and just walking away.
Giving myself a little space to breathe is ESSENTIAL. Because if I'm empty, there’s nothing left of me to pass on to others.
So, here’s the lesson of the day folks. Be courageous and say no.
The world won’t collapse, you will still have just as much value if you had said yes, and those that love you trulyanddeeply will understand.
Having a generous heart is the mark of a kind person.
But as Iyanla Vanzant put it so eloquently ’When you sacrifice yourself to others, you make that person a thief’.
So it's important for me to remember that I serve myself first, so that way I’m prepared to serve others when they need it.
I feel like (because of my condition) I often take more than my fair share. I depend on others for SO MUCH it almost feels like my duty to give back whenever/wherever I can.
So, if someone needs me, I make it a priority to drop whatever it is I'm doing to help them out or be there for them.
It doesn't matter if I'm inconvenienced, tired, busy... I try and put others before myself.
Obviously that isn't a healthy way to live for long periods of time. Because eventually, you give-and-give-and-give until you have nothing left.
Now, I’ve always thought that I would manage the giving. Like, there would be reasonable limits to what I was and what I wasn't willing to do for others.
And I guess there is. I’ve never gotten into a situation where I really regretted helping someone out.
But right now it’s getting to a point where I'm just tired. I’m stretching myself thinner than I’d like and I'm not able to give so freely. I’ll never ever resent someone asking for my attention or help and I want to be the kind of person others can depend on. I'm happy to help, it sustains me and makes me feel whole. But I have to be honest and say that I’m struggling a little bit.
I really dislike saying no to others, but it's starting to take a toll on me personally. I need to remember that there's nothing wrong with me turning off my phone every now and then and just walking away.
Giving myself a little space to breathe is ESSENTIAL. Because if I'm empty, there’s nothing left of me to pass on to others.
So, here’s the lesson of the day folks. Be courageous and say no.
The world won’t collapse, you will still have just as much value if you had said yes, and those that love you trulyanddeeply will understand.
Having a generous heart is the mark of a kind person.
But as Iyanla Vanzant put it so eloquently ’When you sacrifice yourself to others, you make that person a thief’.
So it's important for me to remember that I serve myself first, so that way I’m prepared to serve others when they need it.
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