Secrets are interesting aren't they??
I mean, as soon as someone says they have a secret don't we all immediately WANT TO KNOW what it is??! I mean, even the people who say they don't -- you know they do. No matter what bullshit they try and feed you, it's understood that they want to be filled in. No one likes to be kept in the dark.
The boundaries are fucking clear as day with secrets. I mean, as far as I'm concerned, if someone tells you a secret, your mouth stays shut. As long as nothing life threatening is going down, it’s not my business to tell. That's the whole way secrets work.
But we all know the people we can and can’t tell secrets to. The ones who are faithful and true and the ones that will spread that shit like wildfire.
It’s like this. When someone tells another person a secret, they’re trusting them. They’re giving them an opportunity to betray their trust and they’re allowing themselves to be vulnerable. Needless to say, I take that very seriously. I’ve had my trust betrayed and it’s not a fun thing to experience. Not to mention, I respect the other persons right to privacy much more than my desire to share ’insider information’. It means a lot to me that someone would trust me enough to open up in the first place. So I wouldn't do anything to sully that.
Here’s where things get tricky though. Sometimes you can get told personal information or just general STUFF. No one classifies it as a ’SECRET’ so the lines can get a little blurry as to what you should or shouldn’t say...
But here's the thing. I'm a very private person and I’m careful about what information I put out there. I'm naturally introverted so for the most part I just don't see the point in discussing stuff that has nothing to do with the other individuals in the room.
That being said, when I talk to people and they share -- you can pretty much guarantee that whatever you say is going to stay between us. Even if it isn't personal or private I err on the side of caution and keep it to myself.
You see, I use this little thing that has SADLY fallen out of fashion. It's call discretion.
Because here's how I understand it. You know what information you feel comfortable revealing and I know you’re much better at judging what is personal and what isn't than I am. So what gets shared to others should be YOUR decision. Not mine.
We live in an age where I think we all kinda assume that everyone is privy to everything. Maybe we share more than ever or maybe we over share, I don't know. All I do know is that your business is YOURS.
I mean, as soon as someone says they have a secret don't we all immediately WANT TO KNOW what it is??! I mean, even the people who say they don't -- you know they do. No matter what bullshit they try and feed you, it's understood that they want to be filled in. No one likes to be kept in the dark.
The boundaries are fucking clear as day with secrets. I mean, as far as I'm concerned, if someone tells you a secret, your mouth stays shut. As long as nothing life threatening is going down, it’s not my business to tell. That's the whole way secrets work.
But we all know the people we can and can’t tell secrets to. The ones who are faithful and true and the ones that will spread that shit like wildfire.
It’s like this. When someone tells another person a secret, they’re trusting them. They’re giving them an opportunity to betray their trust and they’re allowing themselves to be vulnerable. Needless to say, I take that very seriously. I’ve had my trust betrayed and it’s not a fun thing to experience. Not to mention, I respect the other persons right to privacy much more than my desire to share ’insider information’. It means a lot to me that someone would trust me enough to open up in the first place. So I wouldn't do anything to sully that.
Here’s where things get tricky though. Sometimes you can get told personal information or just general STUFF. No one classifies it as a ’SECRET’ so the lines can get a little blurry as to what you should or shouldn’t say...
But here's the thing. I'm a very private person and I’m careful about what information I put out there. I'm naturally introverted so for the most part I just don't see the point in discussing stuff that has nothing to do with the other individuals in the room.
That being said, when I talk to people and they share -- you can pretty much guarantee that whatever you say is going to stay between us. Even if it isn't personal or private I err on the side of caution and keep it to myself.
You see, I use this little thing that has SADLY fallen out of fashion. It's call discretion.
Because here's how I understand it. You know what information you feel comfortable revealing and I know you’re much better at judging what is personal and what isn't than I am. So what gets shared to others should be YOUR decision. Not mine.
We live in an age where I think we all kinda assume that everyone is privy to everything. Maybe we share more than ever or maybe we over share, I don't know. All I do know is that your business is YOURS.
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